The truth is that age is not just a number, says Seth Meyers, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of “While there are always exceptions to rules, a good rule to remember is that dating someone more than 10 years older will present challenges now or later that add to the preexisting challenges any relationship has,” he says.Men, in contrast, are hypothesized to be most attracted to women in their reproductive prime, which tends to be when they are younger. Women’s preferences, on the other hand, hold relatively constant across their lives, not going more than a few years below their own age (extra-credit if you can identify the "cougar zone" in this figure), but women remain keen on men up to 10 years older than themselves. However, younger men (i.e., in their 20’s) tend to be married to someone of a similar age, but as they get older their wives get younger.For example, by their 50’s the average male has a wife who is 10 years younger than him.
So maybe there is a kernel of truth the rule, at least for men. Le's research focuses on commitment, including the factors associated with commitment and its role in promoting maintenance.
His career and financial situations were a far cry from mine, and the idea of things getting serious felt rushed and scary to me.
He was closer to 40 than I was to 30, and I felt like he’d inevitably want marriage and children much sooner than I would.
Also, science only looked at fertility in women up until recently.
Now science has studied mens ability to father children and discovered that there is an increased risk of miscarriage and birth deformities when the male partner is over 35.