And it’s Asian men who get accused of trying to control Asian women and being resentful about their social status.
So watching the same fight in the black community is fascinating, because in terms of relative social positioning, black women are more like Asian men.
Thanks to the intermingling of technology and dating, there is irrefutable evidence that in modern American society, races and genders do not mix in harmoniously colorblind fashion.
With black women and Asian men always being the ones left out, the common musing has been, ‘Well, why don’t they just hook up with each other? my personal life is of any relevance, then yes, I’ve dated black women before, both in America and in Asia.
You look around Hollywood and suddenly see so many WMBF pairings popping up, often glowingly portrayed as progressive when it’s really about white dudes leeching off of the racial credibility of minority women to keep themselves on top. We’ve long been in denialism about it because we wanted to save face and not admit to our own complicity or passivity in the face of racist social pressures.
If you’re an Asian guy, saying what Issa Rae said can often get you screamed at or banned in Asian American spaces because LOVE IS LOVE and so what if my rigid preferences just so happen to favor the most dominant and privileged group because it’s totally a coinky-dink so nothing to see here so stop trying to police my body you ugly boring short virgin toxic #the one Asian male character (Justin) is portrayed rather nicely.
The book itself is, in digital years, quite old as it was published in 2015.
I remember going to a old-fashioned running the place would treat us.Think about that before dismissing these issues as unimportant because they’re “just about dating.”Yet at the same time, I also feel for black men who get upset when they see white assimilationist liberalism inciting the same kind of gender wars in their community as I’ve seen among Asian Americans.Liberal think tanks like the Brookings Institute clickbait by insinuating that black women would be better off not marrying black men.That anger never goes away, no matter how much personal romantic success you have. Because even if you try to individually overcome your race, you’re still judged by your group image because when people say “My boyfriend is Asian” or “My girlfriend is black,” they know that the audience will assume stereotypes first.Because even if you win and get the girl/guy of your dreams, you still know that your brothers or sisters are getting fucked over.