Reassurance will be key, especially for younger children.
Let them know that they or their mother aren’t being replaced.
It’s unusually common for single dads dating to look for similarities to their ex in a new partner.
If you can, try to broaden your horizons and look for someone with different life experiences.
Be cautious and don’t expect too much – they may not love her as much as you do straight away!
What it boiled down to was having kids made scheduling things a bit difficult. And that really sucked – because there were a couple of times when I caught myself thinking about how I could dodge my responsibilities as a dad…
I found myself repeatedly telling people “I’m sorry – I’d love to go to the movies tonight, but I’ve got the kids here… I realise this all sounds like a very long-winded whinge, but there is good news.
Relationships are complicated enough without adding in several more layers of “what ifs” – so it’s almost easier just to push through the loneliness, and spare myself and the boys any risk of further hassle.
But that’s not to say that I haven’t given it a go…