It also comes down to the Dutch laid-back attitude, which tends to extend to clothes (and makeup), so you may want to take it down a notch if you're used to getting very gussied up for a date.Don't take it personally if your date shows up in sneakers or arrives at a fancy event in jeans.Either way, be prepared that a date is not always going to be free ride, nor will free drinks in bars be that forthcoming from Dutch men.However, this does not mean that paying for your date is not appreciated – it's your choice.
Being successful in Dutch dating can require a level of assertiveness: if you want something, just do it.
Try to be patient, relax and don't expect your Dutch man or woman to act exactly like people back home.
While expat forums can provide some helpful advice, their dating threads are often the setting for uninhibited (and often unrepresentative) venting: "Dutch women here are rude, arrogant and unfriendly." "The only thing Dutch men have really taken to heart is 'going Dutch'." Resist the temptation and look for more balanced advice elsewhere.
Some report the Dutch avoid making ‘real' connections with foreigners, making it difficult to get past the first Dutch dating hurdle and settle down.
You might find it less common to 'label' a relationship or have a talk about the direction of your love affair, even after several months of meeting.