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Cervenka formed the group with John Doe, to whom she was married from 1980 to 1985, and as Doe sits beside her for Yahoo Entertainment’s career-spanning Backspin interview — part of a yearlong 40th-anniversary celebration that includes their own exhibit at the Grammy Museum, a special honor from the city of Los Angeles, and even an official X Night at Dodger Stadium — Doe can’t help but chuckle.“Not to indict our marriage or anything, because this is 40 years later,” notes Cervenka, a bona fide female rock pioneer. It’s hard for women to feel like they’re not being selfish by putting their careers ahead of everything else, but if you want to do music and you want to be a writer, you’ve got to go full-on towards it.”Doe and Cervenka, however, had a more egalitarian partnership than Cervenka’s statement implies — and that is one of the reasons why X thrived during even the toughest of times, like the hit-and-run death of Cervenka’s older sister, which punk journalist Pleasant Gehman described as “one of the most painful moments I’ve witnessed ever, let alone in the realm of rock ’n’ roll,” just one week after Doe and Cervenka’s wedding. 24 on its list of 100 Best Albums of the ’80s and at No. The title track generated controversy, but it still got played on influential L. radio station KROQ and eventually made the Rock & Roll Hall of Fame’s list 500 Songs That Shaped Rock and in favor of it, clearly! No one was happy with the resulting fifth album — which Doe describes as “very manicured and sliced and diced and demoed” — 1985’s was a very strange and somewhat regrettable change for us, because the songs are very personal.If his discussion of the divorce is a one hundred percent blaming of his soon-to-be ex-wife, take a step back. If, at the core, the problem with his wife was a drug or alcohol problem, she may be responsible for a big part of the breakup, but he may have developed co-dependent tendencies.This means that he needs to be part of a relationship drama instead of part of a relationship.And it’s one of the reasons why X stayed together even after the couple’s romantic partnership ended in the mid-’80s. Some of them are about Exene and I breaking up, and it was a really difficult time, because we were not as connected as we are now or had been in the past,” Doe says.Beyond Baroque, a famous Venice Beach literary arts center, and Cervenka says, “John and I worked well together because we were both writers. And in fact, I didn’t know until many years later if people were gay or straight. “The production, because it’s so layered and there’s so many instruments and there’s doubles and triples and quadruples of everything, it keeps the listener at a distance to some very personal songs.”" data-reactid="67" was a very strange and somewhat regrettable change for us, because the songs are very personal. He came from a different world and couldn’t understand why we weren’t doing better,” says Cervenka. He came from a different world and couldn’t understand why we weren’t doing better,” says Cervenka.