I didn’t talk about my relationships either – I didn’t need to talk to my ex-girlfriend about other girls. But on the other, I’m her ex-boyfriend – I didn’t want to hear about new boyfriends, just as I wouldn’t talk about new girlfriends. There came a point, though, where the way she was bringing up stuff about her current relationship became obnoxious. For me it was that I overestimated the extent to which I had made peace with the relationship being over.Over the course of time, she started alluding to different things about her boyfriend or her relationship. It was gradual and for a while, I ignored her comments and the things she would slip into conversation. My annoyance was with the fact I could clearly see she was trying to push my buttons. A lot of the time as men we need to make firm decisions and hide our mixed emotions.Then she started plastering pictures of her and her new boyfriend everywhere on Facebook and to be perfectly honest it bothered me a bit, but I accepted it.When we hung out, she would occasionally allude to seeing someone, but overall it wasn’t a topic of discussion and I was happy with that.I had no energy to devote to the relationship and I had no mental/emotional room to worry about it.
When Sabrina and I started A New Mode, she and I were working on it during every free hour we had. At that time, I got into a relationship with a girl I cared very much for.But over time, she kept subtly egging me on until finally it started to really annoy me. When I saw beyond a shadow of a doubt that she was trying to rattle me, I had to cut her off. If we know a relationship needs to end, we can accept that and we’ll try our best to stay firm with the decision.It hurt and I miss her being in my life, but I can’t have someone trying to make my life harder to deal with. But it doesn’t mean that we’ve made peace in our heart with the situation.I started to feel bad about what our relationship was like.I was basically just an exhausted body to sleep next to.