I was always concerned about that, and there's no real way to know. It's not something where she gets a monthly check from me every month, I just help her out here and there when, you know, maybe she has to travel to see her mother and she can't cover her airfare until she gets paid two weeks later so I cover it. I think the dynamic of a website like Seeking Arrangement is, you have to assume that whoever you meet on that site is going to say whatever they can say to accomplish whatever goal they might have. I mean, I came to that conclusion after that mercenary relationship.There was no way to get around the fact that without money, that relationships would never had happened.Interviews with Sugar Babies and Sugar Daddies are meant to reflect individual experiences and do not necessarily reflect Refinery29's point of view.Refinery29 in no way encourages illegal activity or harmful behaviour.
So she ended up moving in with me for a while, and then I got set her up in an apartment. So I told her, okay, well you have to be upfront with me, not just honest.
I feel like an older woman is more likely to be communicative and say, "I don't want to do this anymore." What I've come to realise is that sometimes younger women don't know how to do that, especially if they're in a relationship where they need financial support because of the fear of the unknown, like, But I view the dynamic of sugar dating as a mutually powerful relationship unless the sugar baby is desperate for money, and when they’re desperate for money, that’s when it’s a power imbalance.
But I don’t necessarily view sugar dating as the man has all the power, because it's just as easy for the women to walk away. The girl I’m dating now, I was eating at a restaurant outside and she walked by, dropped her phone, it broke in a million pieces and I helped her pick it up.
After, I approached relationships with, it’s probably going to be a terrible relationship, she’s going to lie and deceive me. It really took an awful lot of time to be able to process through that, and I'm still working on it.
When the urge comes up for me to say, If I were single, I would definitely date women who are older.