Take the time to learn about your partner's culture or religion, being careful to check out what parts of such information actually fit for your partner. How much time you spend together and apart is a common relationship concern.If you interpret your partner's time apart from you as, "he or she doesn't care for me as much as I care for him or her," you may be headed for trouble by jumping to conclusions.Families may offer well-intentioned advice about your relationship or your partner.It's important that the two of you discuss and agree on how you want to respond to differing family values and support one another in the face of what can be very intense "suggestions" from family. There are some people who seem to believe that "I have to give up all my friends unless my partner likes them as much as I do." Giving up friends is not healthy for you or the relationship, except in circumstances where your friends pressure you to participate in activities that are damaging to yourself and the relationship.When you are just starting a relationship, it is important to: Relationships Change.Changes in life outside your relationship will impact what you want and need from the relationship.
Demanding what you want, regardless of your partner's needs, usually ends up driving your partner away, so work on reaching a compromise. For many students, families remain an important source of emotional, if not financial, support during their years at the university.
The audiotape text was modified by the staff of the University of Florida Counseling Center.
With their permission and support, it has been revised and edited into its present form by the staff at The University of Texas at Austin Counseling and Mental Health Center, with Suzanne Fremont, Ph. Some portions of this document were modified with permission from brochures published by the Counseling Services at Pace University, the Counseling Services at the University of Wisconsin-Eau Claire, and the Counseling Center for Human Development at the University of South Florida.
Some people find dealing with their partner's family difficult or frustrating.
It can help to take a step back and think about parental good intentions.