Nor are white women trying to take anything away from black women.A white friend of mine who was dating a black guy in school (who is now her husband) says that she was quick to experience pushback, when she would hear things such as “she's taking our good men! There are plenty of black men who exclusively date black women and in those cases, white women don't have any sort of edge.I'll start off by saying that I don't intend for this article to speak for all white women/men or all black men/women.I exclusively dated white men for many years prior to very recently entering the interracial dating scene.
By dating a black man, we don't think that's an extension of “I have black friends, therefore I'm not racist." If we were racist, we wouldn't be dating a black guy in the first place.
I'm going to attempt to address and dispel these stereotypes surrounding white women who date black men: According to this Reddit thread, black men go after overweight white women because they have less options, so they take what they can get.
Not that celebrities are always accurate depictions of regular people, but a handful of the Kardashians prove this stereotype to be false.
And sometimes you surprise yourself and end up being attracted to someone you never thought you would be because they're not traditionally your “type." My white friend who is married to a black man said, “it's just him I fell in love with. " There's this stereotype that white women who date black guys are trying to “show off" or to make white men jealous of black men. Plus, all the males in my family are white and I have nothing but respect for them, so how can I think I'm better than them?
The same goes for black men; their mothers and sisters are black, so they shouldn't think they are above black women by dating white women.