We really don’t know for sure what we’re going to do.
We did want to present you with a post and with links to other posts that should be quite helpful for you though and should have some staying power, just in case you don’t hear from us until we get back. A week or so ago, one of our readers who we believe considers herself healed, passed along a very lengthy article that details the trauma that infidelity creates.
This is one of the very hardest parts of infidelity because it is so unfair.
Through someone else’s choice, your life has been profoundly affected, yet you are left holding the consequences of those actions.
We wanted to present a portion of the article to you that touches on the author’s ideas on what it takes for a betrayed spouse to heal from cheating. It’s important to remember, healing from infidelity is a process – you cannot will yourself into healing.
It is okay if you feel angry or upset reading about the process of healing, especially if you are in the crisis stage.
We will be roughing it for the most part and really don’t have any itinerary or schedules and are going to “wing” this whole thing. We will be taking our I-Pad, I-Phones and a laptop with us and we may check in to see how you all are doing – or we may not.
We’re here to show you the right way to survive infidelity so that your marriage doesn’t become some sort of statistic.Did you just go out on a date and wonder how it went?Are you staying up all night wondering if he/she feels the same way you do? Pretty much everyone has been in this situation at one time or another.Your character and/or behavior CAN NOT CONTROL how your spouse CHOOSES to behave. No one is without faults, embrace yours as part of who you are, and do not shame yourself for them.You cannot be held responsible for how someone chooses to respond to their own feelings – you are not responsible for someone else’s choices. If you have a flaw you’re not proud of and it causes YOU disappointment, set out to change it for yourself – not for your spouse. Trauma changes us, it steels a part of our innocence and is a death to part of who we are.