Don’t just find a bunch of questions on the internet to ask just so you can “fill the silence”.While I will provide examples it’s best if you ask yourself this question: What’s important to me in a relationship?What's a better line: "How you doin'" or "How you doin'? Sunday priorities: exercise, sleep, or aggressive mimosas? " The dating app Hinge (it's like Tinder but based more on your Facebook friend group) did some experimenting to find out what kinds of opening messages work best once you've been matched with someone. These were actually WORSE than just saying "hey." Apparently nothing gets people out of the mood for love more than the term "cargo jorts." Of the top five most commonly selected lines (users were given three options per match), only two of those lines were high-performing. Settle this once and for all: are they called fireflies or lightning bugs? First, you should ask your questions with a purpose.
(best performing line) Another data point they examined was how long you should wait to message someone after you get a match. They found men are impatient: If you don't message within six hours of matching, the likelihood that he'll respond drops by 25%. You can only keep one: Jon Stewart, Stephen Colbert, or John Oliver? (average of 45% higher likelihood of response): How was your 2004?As you’ll see below, none of the questions can be answers simply.Most will require thought or at least some explanation when answered.Finally, don’t get so obsessed with asking a list of specific questions that you end up putting you’re dating on an “interview”. If it never finds a life of its own then at the very least mix things up so there are some serious questions and some light-hearted ones. If you are serious about finding a relationship you need to decide what’s important to you and base your questions, at least in part, on these areas.Also, don’t assume you’re the only one who should ask questions…allow your date to ask questions as well!