By making a reference to the particular person you’re contacting – asking a question, saying you like something in their picture or a particular thing in their profile – you’re more likely to get their attention.Of course, there’s nothing that says you should write a completely new message each time.You never know what the other person is looking for, so until you do, don’t make any assumptions.Coming on strong or being graphic or physical is more likely to put people off than anything.Lessons in how to write your online personal ad and how to have the right attitude abound, mixed in with the tried-and-true advice. I have violated almost all of the "rules" at one point or another in this book and guess what?Which strongly resembles the advice If you've never read The Rules, and I wouldn't blame you for giving it a miss, you should know it attempts to dictate to women how to act with men so that they end up with what they want - presumably a husband and a Happily Ever After. It didn't always break it--sometimes it made it for me.Take your fabulous self on to the next likely candidate! I recognize (and very much resent) that the concept of working the Rules is accurate - meaning it is human nature to want what you can't have, so a female tends to up her stock by appearing to be unavailable.It can be hard advice to follow, but by doing it, you present yourself as someone with self-respect, which you should be anyway. It is disturbing how many women have to pretend to have a self I have a work friend who keeps giving me her "Rules" books to read, so I read to oblige.
Sending everyone you come across a generic message may save you time, but is likely to also get you fewer responses.If it's all about saving their face, I'm not interested.Again there are ways not to be desperate and needy without having to lie or spill your guts about your entire past. Occasionally the authors say, "It's just not right," but that's about it. It didn't always break it--sometimes it made it for me. I have violated almost all of the "rules" at one point or another in this book and guess what?